This page is inspired by the FAQ on Welcome to Barbados. Shannon's idea was so brilliant that I had to shamelessly steal it and use it on this site. If you haven't checked out Barbados, you really should. It is a beautiful place. Anyway, on with the FAQ...

- Help Questions
- Site Questions
- Me Questions
- Random Questions
- Dumb Questions

Help Questions

• I need help NOW. What should I do?



• If you have just been raped, please click here for a list of suggestions on what to do.



• Call RAINN: the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network at 1-800-656-HOPE. This is their confidential, 24 hour, toll free rape hotline. They will connect you with a counselor who you can talk to.

• I need to talk to other survivors. Is there a place where I can do this?



• Online Survivor Connections
  • 
    connect with other survivors, find help, and learn to heal
    
    
• Offline Survivor Connections
  • Contact your local rape crisis center. They can give you information about support groups, etc. Check in your local yellow pages, or call RAINN at: 1-800-656-HOPE, press "3" at the menu and ask them for more information.

• I am looking for self help books. Can you recommend any?



• Check out the resources section.

Site Questions

• Is there a place on this site where I can tell my story?



• Yes! Check out the Pandora's Aquarium.

• Does Escaping Hades contain any information for male survivors?



• Yes! I recently added a section for male survivors.

• I am working on a project/paper/fundraiser having to do with survivors. Where can I find more information?



• Pandora's Aquarium has a special forum for this.

• I would like to link sites with you. What steps do I need to take?



• Visit the banner page if you want to use a banner, or simply put up a text link on your site. Go to the submission page on the search engine and send me the information about your site.

• I need information about date rape drugs. Do you know where I can find some?



• There is information about date rape drugs scattered around Escaping Hades. I know of a few articles and some information in the safety tips section. A great resource can be found on I Sang Holy Holy in the section Spring Haze

Me Questions

• I sent you an email and you didn't reply. What's the deal?



• I'm sorry! I am really busy person and I can't always answer all of the email that I get. I do read and appreciate it all. If you'd like feedback from other survivors, you should check out Pandora's Aquarium. It's a wonderful message board/support group.

• Are you an expert or counselor?



• No. I am a survivor, just like you. I have not been trained as a peer counselor and I am by no means a professional.

• Do you do talks? Can I interview you?



• Yes! Check out the speaking out section for more information.

• Where are you from?



• I'm not a big fan of stalkers. It makes me nervous when people ask me this question, so you're pretty much guaranteed to not get an email back.

• Are you a real person?



• Last time I checked! Here is a little ramble about me:
  
  

  I'm Lis. My name is pronounced Liz. I am a 24 year old law student. In undergrad, I double majored in English and Law. It is nearly impossible for people to gain my trust. I couldn't do an art project to save my soul. I once owned TWO ferrets (and regretted it). I am very dependable. I am addicted to Tropicana orange juice. Caffeine makes me loony. I watch Jerry Springer and laugh my butt off. I have a dog and two cats... and a horse. I would marry Jon Stewart if he asked me (and David Duchovny too). I once had to have surgery because I fell while swinging someone else around by the arms (I'm coordinated). I would rather die than drink water - it's gross. I am always on time. I get bored easily. I don't like people telling me what to do. I have been a vegetarian for ten years. I hate crying with a fiery passion. I am not religious. I am a workaholic. I could never, in a million years, decide on one Tori song as my favorite. I like reading trashy crime/mystery novels. I am a good driver and not afraid to share that fact. I can't spell. I am not afraid to speak my mind. My two favorite movies are Jurassic Park and Dumb & Dumber. I scored almost perfect on the verbal SATs, but only got a 590 on the math (go figure). I love taking photographs but I am horrible at it. I am an amazing writer. My favorite stuffed animal is a seal named Seal. I always wear two different socks. I am very bad with money. I don't like rules. I could keep rambling about myself forever, but I have to go to my riding lesson. You can read more about me in my story.

• What's the best way to get in touch with you?



• Email. My email address is: lis@pandys.org

Random Questions

• Doesn't Tori Amos mention something about Persephone in one of her songs?



• Yep. The song is called "Pandora's Aquarium." This song is also where Shannon got the name for Ripple Back to Me, the mailing list. The lyrics are:
  
  Pandora
  Pandora’s Aquarium
  She dives for shells
  With her nautical nuns
  And thoughts you thought
  You’d never tell
  I am not asking you to believe in me
  Boy I think you’re confused
  I’m not Persephone
  Foam can be dangerous
  With tape across my mouth
  Those things you do
  I never asked you how
  
  Line me up in single file
  With all your grievances
  Stare but I can taste
  You’re still alive
  Below the waste
  Ripples come and ripples go
  And ripple back to me
  
  Pandora
  Pandora’s aquarium
  She dives for shells
  With her nautical nuns
  And thoughts you thought
  You’d never tell
  Line me up in single file
  With all your grievances
  Stare but I can taste
  You’re still alive below the waste
  Ripples come and ripples go
  And ripple back to me
  I am not asking you to believe in me
  Boy I think you’re confused
  I’m not Persephone
  She’s in New York somewhere
  Checking her accounts
  The Lord of The Flies was diagnosed as Sound

• I'd like more information about Tori Amos. Where can I find it?



• Check out The Dent for oodles of Tori information. Information about Tori and survivors can be found at: Welcome to Barbados, RAINN & I Sang Holy Holy.

Dumb Questions

• I worship the god Hades. You shouldn't slander him like this.



• First of all, this isn't a question. Secondly, this site is not about Hades, it is about healing. The name was taken from a Greek myth in which Persephone is raped by Hades. Go read it.

• Do you worship the god Persephone?



• Um... no. I chose Escaping Hades as the name of this site because it seemed to fit after I read the myth, but this site has nothing to do with mythology (duh).

• I have a different interpretation of the myth of Persephone. You should change yours!



• Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah

• People might come to your site and read the survivor stories to "get off" - you should take your site down because of this!



• It is my hope that anyone who comes to the site looking for a porn site, will be moved by the stories of survivors, and realize that rape is not something sexual. It is an act of violence.